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To use euthanasia or not

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Yester night I was watching a movie; it is the only movie that almost brought tears into my eyes. Me Before You ….You see how how we check traffic on one side of the road while we are on phone, that’s how this guy got hit by one and he was paralyzed for the next 2 and a half years.  He used to be an adrenalin junkie, scuba diving, ice skating et.al but after this accident, he could only reminisce on his past.He was in and out of depression. He was confined to a wheel chair and he became totally dependent; had to move back to his parent’s house who hired a doctor and a minder (nanny).

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A still picture from “Me before you”

As usual, his girlfriend was the first to abandon him, and then his best friend could not wait to get his hands on her (typical of humans and particularly men). And they had the nerve to come and visit him; poor soulL.  Anyway, with time everyone other than his family abandoned him. Good thing is that his family was wealthy and he was fully catered for. He was always in a bad mood; never smiled for a long time until this pretty minder who desperately needed a job came on board and he was happy again. They ended up falling in love and toured some exotic places just to cheer him up. It was his mother’s idea to bring in someone pretty and chatty to get him out of depression and to convince him not to end his life. Yes, he had considered having euthanasia cus he was constantly in pain. Unfortunately this pretty lady whose name was Lou as she liked calling herself didn’t succeed and after a painful denial she let go off him and he died a happy man. He left her a good fortune of his life’s savings.

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One of the quotes from the movie

Why am I going on and on about this sad love story? If you had an option, would you rather your loved one went through with euthanasia or let nature take its course? I know death is considered a taboo in our continent but the rate at which terminal illnesses and road accidents are sending people to their early graves, maybe euthanasia can be considered as an option. As much as death is inevitable, no one likes talking about it. Even when someone is on their deathbed and it’s clear they will not make it out alive, we still want to hold on to hope that they will make it. It is ok to hope against hope but sometimes the pain is too much both for the patient and their family and mercy killing or pulling them off life support machine is the only way to lessen the pain for both parties. However, euthanasia is not allowed in Kenya; the Kenyan law prohibits anyone from knowingly, intentionally or directly causing death to another person. Maybe medics can take up the issue with law makers and just maybe, the burden of taking care of terminally ill might be lessened; for both the government and the affected families. Most western countries have adopted euthanasia especially if someone has been dependent on life support machine for quite some time. It is also allowed to end a child’s life if they have a terminal illness or they were born with a condition that will see them to the grave before a certain age.

Euthanasia is a debate that has been discussed over and over again and people will always agree to disagree. Some people will argue with Bible verses of how life should only be ended by our Maker which is alright cus he’s the Giver of life (save for atheists); but I’ll always love how people quote the Bible when it suits them. Other people will argue that there’s no point in letting a person suffer under your watch and you can do something to lessen their pain. Terminal illnesses are hard both for the family and the patient whether emotionally, physically or economically. Some illnesses leave the family literally begging for essentials despite them having medical covers. These illnesses exhaust the medical cover; eat up the family’s life savings, call for medical fundraisers and unfortunately the patient still passes on. its sad to see your loved one suffer and not know how to relieve the pain. It’s even sadder when they pass on.

To use euthanasia or not is like being caught between a rock and a hard place; you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t.

Would you pull off your loved one from life support machine? Would you allow them go through with euthanasia if that was their wish? Would you consider euthanasia if your loved one cant make that decision either cus they are mentally unfit or they have been in a comma for far too long? Do you think euthanasia should be allowed in all countries? What do you think about euthanasia?

Lose blacks and dull colours:embrace bright colours

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The other day, I was to put on a white dress and a purple top. I put them together the previous night but I was too lazy to iron in the evening. So, I decide I’ll iron in the morning; morning comes and I wake up a little late which means I can’t iron. Besides, the white dress needed me to put on specific heels and I just didn’t have the energy to walk in them.  So I rummage my closet and I settled on a yellow dress; a good choice cus I didn’t need to iron it and the heels I was to pair it with are quite comfortable.  Sigh! Does anyone else hate ironing like me? I try as much as possible not to get something that will need ironing all the time. Ironing saps the life out of me.

Anyway, I noticed on this particular day I was in good moods the whole day. I couldn’t help feeling beautiful (notice I didn’t use pretty J) and radiant. In fact someone asked me what I had in the morning cus my spirits were so high. I’ll teach you something today, never tell anyone that they are looking pretty cus it means they are attractive yes but they are not really beautiful. We have this inside joke with my friend Shi *chuckles* of calling each other pretty, hahhahaha!

Anyway, maybe some of you have no idea how colors play a very important role in our lives. It’s color that draws you to a certain dress, a product, a certain brand and so many other things. Colors have the power to control our emotions, yes they do. Let’s look at colors in depth;

Warm colors (yellow, orange and red)

Warm colors have a way of bringing out happiness and feelings of energy. I wonder why people insist on putting on black to a funeral when it’s already sad enough.

  • Yellow

Try putting on yellow on that day you wake up feeling like you are carrying the whole universe on your shoulders. It might not solve your problems but it’ll raise your moods. Yellow is the color associated with new ideas; it helps in finding new ideas of doing things. Yellow has the ability to awaken optimism and greater confidence. However, too bright yellow might stress you up especially if you are going through a difficult transition in your life. Therefore, get the right yellow that does not irritate your eyes J

  • Orange

Orange is a combination of yellow and red; it enhances playfulness. It enhances a feeling of vitality as well as happiness just like yellow. Orange can be aggressive but it is quite friendly an inviting. It shows movement but with a less overpowering effect. Orange uplifting and we should strive to find a way to incorporate it in our daily lives. Don’t do too much orange; a top (blouse or camisole), a bracelet or a hair band is just fine. Put on color orange when you want to be ‘the life’ in the office.

  • Red

Red has been associated with many things; passionate, sexy as well as the color for showing danger. Red is a physical stimulant which means it ignites action as well as enhances a speedy response. Ever wondered why most lingerie is red? For speedy ignition as well as response. Red is a powerful color and too much of it results into an overkill. So, stick to small doses of red like nail polish, lipstick, and shoes and if you are in full red, break it with other colors like yellow and black.

Cool colors (green, purple and blue)

Cool colors are calming as well as soothing but they can also be used to express sadness; Purple sparks creativity.  Green is easy on eyes and the eyes can stay there for longer. As for blue; it is so calming. This color causes the body to create some chemicals that evoke a calming feeling. Wondered why Twitter and Facebook used blue as their brand colors? Cus blue gives a friendly feel and a more relaxing feel.

So, lose black and all dull clothes from your closet and you’ll experience a shift on your moods. Get yourself colored and flowered outfits and become girly all over again.

Let me give you a few ideas on some colors that should find their way into your closet.

 

 

 

WRITING IS THERAPEUTIC! YES IT IS…

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I love writing…..I write about anything and everything…It makes my heart lighter. It helps me feel like I have talked to somebody…..You see, I am one of those people who rarely talk about their problems to people because at times I feel like they will not get where I am coming from. That is why I have a journal and lately my blog. My journal is my friend…I can cry as I write, I can smile and put all my emotions there…. And after I am done with my entry, my heart feels lighter, I feel like I have shared it with a friend…I feel like I have solved the problem…And oohh, I write my journal in any color…I even have some entries with a red pen…so long as I have poured my heart in my journal, I don’t care what color it is. It’s only for my consumption anyway…

The other day I was chatting with a friend and we talked about writing and keeping journals… He couldn’t believe that I have like four journals in a period of four years…. He thought I was the weirdest being alive. Not like I write every day, I just write when my heart is heavy, when I need to clear my head over an issue….when I have achieved something great in my life… My journals are my novels, when I feel bored I just read them and memories come back. Well, some memories are not so good and they should just be forgotten about but at times, it good to see where you came from. You know, to laugh at all your silly mistakes, to pat yourself on the back for all the achievements…WRITING IS THERAPEUTIC, TRUST ME IT IS!

The problem comes in when you have named names in your journal. Especially when the entry was in bad taste, wah! You don’t want them to get their hands on that journal..  If I get a bad experience with you, you can be lest assured I will have an entry about you in my journal…I am that bad…A good experience too with you will earn you a page in my journal.  So, don’t cross my way…don’t step on my toes…  Be nice to me…I love my journals and they make me shed tears when I look at them and all the memories rush back like it was yesterday but I have been thinking of burning them… Some entries that have been entered in bad taste, I don’t want anyone seeing them…just me, myself and I. To be on the safe side, I should get me a safe and bury the key to make sure that nobody gets to access it. Ha ha! And just like it happens in the movies, I will write in my will where my family will get the key to the safe…..At least when I am gone, they will be able to read what I thought I thought about them….

And writing pays, just like it pays for my bills, well, some of my bills…So, write, write and write even more..That journal might just turn into a cash cow, true story! It is called starting from humble beginnings….. Even a mere entry of how your day was is a good start! Once I compile my journals I will let you know…I have been dreaming of writing a novel and the novel a best seller….

Write how your day went by today and with time, you will be amazed how great it makes you feel. You will never need a shrink, trust me!  A Journal is the best shrink in the whole wide world…. J J